Soon to be "ex" X

We've all had the experience; a coffee shop staffed by frightened employees ducking in fear each time the manager barks the next round of orders. It's unpleasant for customers, and usually the fearful staff end up making a sub-par coffee, but we tolerate it in order to get our caffeine fix. What about that other coffee shop - the one with the friendly owner who welcomes everyone in and speaks kindly (but firmly, of course) to their team? The coffee always tastes good, doesn't it? And have you ever noticed after a few months or even years that the team hasn't changed much - it's mostly the same staff. Why? They feel secure in their workplace. They know they have a job to do and they do it efficiently, and usually they "go the extra mile" because they genuinely want to. They know the boss treats them kindly (but firmly - boundaries are important), so they WANT to perform better to please their boss. Sure it doesn't always work, and occasionally a less-...